The Status Woe

Rising above mediocrity one mishap at a time

Can you help?

Dear “Friends of Kelli,”

While visiting with Kelli this weekend, we realized it’s been 9 months. In the past 9 months we have learned even more about what an amazing person Kelli is and how much she is loved by her family and friends. In the past 9 months Kelli has faced significant personal challenges besides being incarcerated. As her friends, it has been hard for us to watch her go through such a difficult time in her life while remaining helpless. We support Kelli to remain hopeful and then there are days when she supports us to remain hopeful. Kelli wants us to thank everyone who has so generously offered words of support, donations, and action on her behalf. She feels lucky to have people in her life who are willing to remind her she is worth it and she is loved!

As the trial grows closer, we continue to struggle with the financial aspect of this situation. Right now we are seeking funds to hire an expert witness we believe will give important insight to the judge and jury at her trial. Currently, Kelli has no assets to speak of and we are growing extremely concerned about her future without this expert witness. The charges against Kelli hold a maximum sentence of life in prison with the possibility of parole. Our friend has been broken for a long time. We all know Kelli has struggled with her daughter’s continued aggression toward her and her family. We know how hard she fought in attempts to give her daughter a better quality of life that included community support and a home free from aggression for her family. No family should have to struggle as much as Kelli’s family has. Since she has been gone, her daughter continues to struggle with the same aggression, the only difference is there is only 1 parent left to coordinate her care while continuing to raise their other two children.

OUR FRIEND NEEDS OUR HELP! We currently need to raise funds in EXCESS of $20,000 for an expert witness crucial to Kelli’s defense. All donations make a difference whether you are able to donate $20 or $2,000! Please give what you can, share on your blog or website, and pass it on to those who can also help. Below is the link for donations. Feel free to copy the donation link. If you’d like a paypal button for your blog, please email us at

Click the link below to donate online. You do not need a paypal account to pay by credit card, just click the link on the page to the left that says to pay without a paypal account.

You can also donate by check or money order by mailing a check in Kelli’s name to the address below. All funds raised go to Kelli’s personal account.

If you would like to donate via check, please make it out to Kelli Stapleton and mail it to:

PO Box 58, Frankfort, MI 49635

PLEASE help our friend Kelli…she needs our love, support, and a strong defense.

Please give what you can.

Thank you so much.

~Marlowe and Vickie

P.S. One of Kelli’s friends has taken action to get the ‘postcard only’ decision by the sheriff overturned. She was successful! Kelli can once again receive regular (PLAIN) letters! So keep on writing!

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Discrimination of Parents By Disability Advocates Must End

“Are disability advocates working together WITH parents to create change for people and children with disabilities? Recently, I’ve found many examples of disability advocates using their voice to promote a self-narcissistic view of their disability, while ridiculing parents and accusing them of neglect and abuse. Kelli Stapleton has been my friend and fellow autism mom for many years, I will continue to support her and her family. I am compelled to share her story because it creates change and brings light to an issue that is both important and horrific. Just as I won’t rub it in your face and taunt you, I expect you to do the same. This kind of hatred has divided the autism and disability community. We need this to STOP.” ~ Marlowe

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Thanks Lin for helping out!

Our friend Lin has started a letter writing campaign for Kelli and a way to give back, thanks Lin!

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Issy is an amazing little girl ❤️

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How to Write to Your BFF Kelli!

Some rules when writing to your BFF Kelli Stapleton-The Status Woe: Please send letters only! (contact us at for the address) We’ve heard that greeting cards are getting returned for various reasons. No crayons, stickers, glitter etc can be used of any kind. Please write your return address on the envelope and INCLUDE IT ON YOUR ACTUAL LETTER TOO! Please do not send stamps or self addressed envelopes, they won’t allow them. Sometimes the envelopes are discarded and Kelli doesn’t have an address to write back. They won’t allow packages or anything other than letters but if you’d like to make a donation to her commissary account, she can buy stamps to write you back! You can do this at the link below. Her commissary account is running low on funds and this is how she purchases paper, pencils, snacks, toiletries etc. Thank you so much for all your support, keep up the positive thoughts and hopeful wishes. 



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The Art of Letter Writing, Let’s Create More Hope

I heard from Kelli this week and she wrote a few blog posts but I’m waiting on my expert proof readers to give me the ok. As soon as I get them back I will post them.


Kelli shared with me that she is “cautiously optimistic and hopeful” your letters and encouragement are working! She wanted me to thank everyone for your continued support. She is grateful for all the love, prayers and support she has gotten from her family and so many of her friends, she remains truly humbled. For those of you who have written to her sharing your stories, she wants you to know you are not alone. We have received many more emails from parents sharing their stories and we are still in awe of the resilience of parents and the difference it has made in their lives when they share their struggles.

When you share your story, you aren’t instantly granted a fairy godmother to solve all your troubles (wouldn’t that be nice?), but you are certainly in the presence of people who understand what you are going through. Sometimes talking or writing to another person helps you sort through your thoughts and gives you a way to reflect on where you have been, and where you are going.

Writing helps you see progress and sometimes can motivate you to make changes when you see the decline in your desired change. If you don’t keep a journal, write letters to friends, or have a blog, START! Do it! Kelli would love to hear from you too.

I read a post from one of Kelli’s friends who said that Kelli has helped her to discover the lost art of letter writing. Isn’t this the truth?! When was the last time you sat down with a pen and paper and wrote a letter to someone…in your own handwriting?! Whoa! They don’t even teach that in school anymore. Truly a lost art. Let’s begin. Writing is good for everyone! Great for your fine motor skills and awesome for spreading hope, love and dreams throughout the world.

If you’re interested in writing to Kelli, please email us at If you’d like to make a donation to her fund, please see us at for more information

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“For a community that has fought long and hard to end stigma for their kids, why are we now projecting it onto broken parents?”

Thank you to Marianne Russo for this beautifully written post.

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Updates From Kelli Coming This Week…

Today some of us gathered and talked about how this tragedy came to be. We are all feeling weary with many emotions, but agreed on moving forward to ensure Kelli’s story is told by people who love and support her.

This is the best way we can help.

Moving forward can be difficult. Feelings of despair and anger have caused a divide in many communities across the country. The events leading us here are difficult to hear. The news reports are hard to watch. A small community is struggling. The Autism community is divided. Friends and family are reeling.

How do you support an entire family torn in two?

Should there be a divide? Do you have to choose?

I guess you have to ask yourself… What’s in your heart?!

This story began with a family that was struggling and it continues to affect each one of them on a  personal level no person can even imagine.

There should not be a divide, there should be unity. We should surround this family with our love and support by talking with friends who are struggling, finding an outlet for our negative feelings. Dig down deep and explore empathy. Imagine yourself in these circumstances fighting for someone you love so much that you are willing to sacrifice everything. What would THEY want?

Which leads me to my next thought…

If I am feeling this way, how are the REST of Kelli’s friends feelings? Kelli has reached out to so many people in so many ways other than her story about Autism. Kelli has more friends than I ever imagined and they are all related to a different part of her life. I still continue to be amazed.

Last night I reached out to Kelli’s friends on Twitter to send a message about the fundraiser. In the coming days, we are hoping to have a statement from Kelli and will post it here for everyone. People have been so kind to send money, love and words of support. I think it’s important that we hear from Kelli. Talking to her certainly makes ME feel better so maybe a little of her goodness will ease the rest of our feelings and help us know how she’s doing. We will get this posted in the next few days.

Fundraiser Update!

Today we had an anonymous donation to Kelli’s defense fund for $1,000! Whoa! Someone out there really understands Kelli’s story! Thank you!

Stay tuned! We also have a special fundraiser incentive coming this week…stay tuned!

Friend of Kelli Stapleton,


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Kelli’s Story is Being Told

I’ve finally had a chance to sit down for a while to look at some of the news stories about Kelli this week. While difficult to watch at times, I am encouraged when I hear she is hopeful! Andy Dominianni came all the way from Kalamazoo to report about this week’s news and ongoing efforts to raise money for additional legal counsel. Thanks Andy for your respectful reporting and ability to tell Kelli’s story. I will post links below so you can check out a few of the latest news stories and a few blogs. If you are a blogger and would like me to share your story with Kelli, will you please send the link to your story to You can also email us and we will provide the address so you can print and send it yourself! All letters have to be in plain scriptish type lingo. They won’t allow “news articles” or clippings. 

Fundraising efforts have stalled. To date we have gratefully raised $3,000. Have you shared Kelli’s story with everyone you know? We feel it is important to get this story out because it helps other parents know they are not alone. We need to continue to talk about the struggles parents face in these situations. Raising children is challenging alone. Raising a child with autism or other challenges can be scary and overwhelming. If this describes you, you are not alone. Reach out to your local agencies and demand help if you feel overwhelmed. We support you!

Thank you for supporting our friend Kelli, please keep up the effort!

Friends of Kelli Stapleton- Marlowe & Vickie


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I am NOT a Blogger but I’m doing my best…

This is not a ghost controlling Kelli’s blog and I am typically not a blogger so please bare with me here…

There have been a lot of questions surrounding the legitimacy of this page as well as who and how the funds will be used. Legitimate questions I would want to know! Friends of Kelli Stapleton was started by her friends Vickie and Marlowe with the permission of Kelli. Kelli has also given us permission to post updates here on this blog. My only disclaimer is I am NOT a blogger so patience is necessary! 

We do believe Kelli deserves a fair chance to share her story- which most of know has been difficult and faced with adversity from so many different angles. We hope that by bringing attention to this difficult issue, we will help those families who are in similar situations. No family should have to go through what Kelli went through. No family should be turned away when seeking help. So far we’ve had almost 100 emails from people wanting to write letters and donate money. We’ve had people from as far away as the UK and Canada as well as support from all over the country! People have shared their stories with us and I am overwhelmed with their kindness and compassion as well as saddened that some of them are facing the same crisis as Kelli. If you are one of those people, THANK YOU! We couldn’t do it without your support!

Autism plays a role in this situation but this issue goes beyond autism, it includes any parent who is being abused by their child. Feeling hopeless and responsible for a child who is harming you is overwhelming. Kelli needs help to ensure she is able to give that message. Legal fees and attorney’s are expensive and we realize the cost will most likely quadruple but we wanted to set a goal that is realistic and attainable in a short time. 

Our fundraising efforts are beginning to slow a little, have you told your friends about Kelli? I’m sure if you did, they would think she’s a great as we do!

THANK you for your help and support, please keep it coming!


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